The Lessons of Dirty Dancing
Is it unrealistic to want a guy who will fight for me? Yeah, yeah a knockdown thing would be nice too but not even that. More and more I’m beginning to accept that I want and need for myself and that includes someone who’ll balance my idealism, occasional lack of spontaneity, and often too-high very high and often rigid goals (I’m continuously told that I’m too hard on myself but I can’t accept that yet). But I’d also like someone who’s willing to claim me and do what it takes to make sure I and other folks know that. Honestly, this doesn’t seem like overreaching. For most of my previous relationships I feel as if I’ve done most of the work and taken on a huge emotional burden of ensuring that things succeeded. Well jeez, how has that worked out for me? One crushed heart that’s still under construction and a healthy fear of relationships and doing all the work of getting to know smaddy. I know that I can be solo but I prefer companionship. And no a dog or some other pet does not a real companion make. So I really don’t know what the future holds but I hope & pray that God sorts things out soon because I’m kinda getting impatient/anxious.
A friend shared some advice from her dad: find a guy who loves you MORE than you love him. At first blush this seemed selfish to me – love and relationships are supposed to be equal; that’s what spelled nurturing and success. But the more I thought about it and heard of friends’ recent experiences I realize that yeah, it’s not a bad standard to have. It seems as if it’s a crucial component of assuring his attention and commitment so long as you don’t abuse it. I know that I will pull my weight and am willing to treat Dude X like a King but is it too much to be treated like a Queen in return?
There’s also something to be said for a guy who treats as good as or better than your parents do. That characteristic seems to be a little harder to find and “demand” but boy does it sound good.
I guess we’re all looking for reassurance, no?
sounds: some baby show in TV and the fountain